Women are describing Egg Freezing as…
“Empowering and liberating”
“Great backup plan”
“Allows valuable time and flexibility”
Allie’s Egg Freezing Story
I investigated several clinics and chose West Coast Fertility Center. By then I was 35 years old approaching 36. I went through the procedure, paying partially up front and taking out a medical loan for the rest. Had I known then what I know now, I most likely would have gone through egg retrieval up to 2 more times, had I been able to afford or find a way to afford it. Also, going into the procedure, I learned that I did a lot of “no-no’s”–was under tremendous stress from my job, worked out a lot, ate chocolate and caffeine–all things that common internet knowledge says may lead to reduced amount of eggs during egg retrieval. From my one retrieval, I ended up with 5 viable eggs and 5 immature eggs.
In 2008 I met the man who would, a year later, become my second (and hopefully last and only!) husband! He was open to having more children (he had two!) – only one drawback – he had had a vasectomy years before.
We moved on from this and finally found a superior option for a masterful vasectomy reversal for my husband-in Dusseldorf, Germany (cheaper and better than what we could afford in the US), and by 2011 we were trying “naturally” first to get pregnant.
Fast forward, my fertility profile was more or less as average as average could be for a woman my age; I was also in great health, took good care of myself…just my eggs were now old.
Work obligations overseas kept me from perfecting the medication protocol developed for me by Dr. Diaz, and we shuttled info back and forth from 2012 – 2014. Finally, finally, it looked like we had a winning cocktail of hormones for me and that I would be in the US and able to go to my satellite fertility clinic on the East Coast where I now lived.
Of course I was nervous. My husband could not come with me to California for the transfer, but prior to that, we had taken a couple of weeks of vacation together, and, I still had a lot of friends in SoCal. So, my trip was more like a vacation.
This time, I was just trying to relax. Previously, I had made sure I ate all organic prior. This time I avoided meat that I didn’t know. I had been on high quality folate supplements since October 2013 as well as a prenatal. I drank my last alcohol a week or so before my transfer. I abstained from caffeine and chocolate.
I had expected to have more energy after the transfer but I really did just feel like resting and sleeping the couple of days afterwards. Although I flew home three days after my transfer, my first full day home, I slept all day.
I did my best during the two week wait to stay occupied. I was lucky in that friends had offered me their complete embryos should mine not take, but even so, that only somewhat lessened my fear the day I went for the blood test. I did not test early. I waited the full two weeks.
I couldn’t believe it when Maria at Dr. Diaz’s office called me later to say my numbers were very good. I remained hopeful the next week that both embryos had taken, but in the end, I remained well within the bell curve for my age and situation–with a 1 out of 2 remaining!
I have just entered my 9th week of pregnancy. I have had very little nausea and find that on alternating days for the last week I have been very sleepy. And, for some reason, me, an avid eater of greens of all sorts can’t bear to think of eating anything green and I also sort of have to trick myself now into drinking water. I find I wake up hungry by 4 a.m. so I have to keep a snack with me in the bedroom. I don’t want water out of glasses, but for some reason, the cold metal water bottle I have does the trick!
I know that if something goes wrong from here on out, it is not due to anything done of the part of Dr. Diaz. Their clinic was caring and professional with me all of the way, and I was actually surprised and comforted by their warmth while I was there. We had been on quite a journey together.
Best of Luck,
Elaine’s Egg Freezing Story
In no way do I regret the choice to pursue my passions but I also recognize that with these pursuits came certain sacrifices that put creating a family of my own on the back burner as I struggled to find stability within the tenuous career of dance. As a college student, I remember vividly observing some of my female dance professors attempting to have children in their forties and all the self doubt and pain that came along with them being challenged with issues of fertility. At the time, I didn’t understand how their sense of value and womanhood was tethered to how easily they could conceive, as these were successful and amazing women that I deeply respected. Now, at age 40, I have a deep compassion and understanding for these women, and women in general, that I couldn’t connect to as my 20 year old self.
The reality was that my partner was 10 years younger and not ready to have a family. This nearly impossible situation was compounded by the fact that his parents strongly disapproved of our relationship and made it very clear about how they felt. They lodged constant accusations that I was infertile, old looking, manipulative, a bad person, and the ruin of their family’s happiness. I was also surprised by the amount of ageism and judgment I experienced from others as well. And although I knew that the statements and criticisms from others were ridiculous, the constant bombardment of them deeply affected me.
Through this process of really having to evaluate what was truthful and most important in my life, the idea of egg freezing seemed like a pro-active and concrete solution to extend the possibility of having children later on.
I knew from the initial moment that I met Dr. Diaz and his staff that I was in the right hands. Beyond the high success rates and strong science that backed them, I knew that I needed a team of people who could support me emotionally through the process. I was stepping into the unknown, had to face my deepest fears along the way, and was still reeling from a relationship lost. They were amazing and when the egg freezing procedure was finally complete, I felt a large sense of relief, gratitude, and pride knowing that I had done everything within my own reach to give myself the option of having a family in the near future.
- Be able to acknowledge, discern, and disregard the opinions and judgments of others so that you can clearly and intently listen to your own heart’s desire. It really is your life and your choice and only you know what will make you happy!
- Find the right staff to see you through this process. Our natural inclination might be to just seek the best results at whatever cost. However, egg freezing is indeed a long and challenging process emotionally, mentally, financially, and physically. Seek out a partnership with a clinic that you trust, treat you with dignity and compassion, have excellent communication skills, and feel have your best interests in mind.
- Be kind to yourself. There is only so much we can control in this world and we are often our worst critics. Remind yourself that your value stretches much deeper and wider than the ability to have children. If you decide to proceed forward with egg freezing, do the best you can do to care for yourself within the process. Sleep well, eat well, and exercise well. And commend yourself for taking a bold and courageous step!
Katie’s Egg Freezing Story
I would like to be a mother at some point but I don’t have an overwhelming desire to have a baby no matter what, as I hear from some women. For me it’s more about finding the right person to have a child with and wanting to witness the combination of our characteristics in that child. But the partner has to come before the child and I’m not focused on finding that partner at the moment; partly that’s because of my career but I also very much enjoy my independence and single lifestyle.
I don’t want to be in a situation in 2 or 3 or 5 years where I have found the right partner, but no longer have the option of our combined “Mini Me” because my eggs aren’t viable. So I see this as an insurance policy. If I find the right person and have a child naturally that’s great, but if there are obstacles naturally this process will hedge them.
Dr. Diaz has a great manner and is clearly very capable, and I feel like a peer as opposed to a patient, especially because of his follow ups and the correspondence with my OBGYN.
Shana’s Egg Freezing Story
Freezing my eggs has enabled me to stop worrying about whether I’ll have a chance to have children before the end of my reproductive timeline.